The Lord is building this house

Pastor
Rev. Dr. Jayson S. Galler
Date
The Wedding of J.D. Sampson and Tifaney Sweeden, March 20, 2013
Bible Readings
Psalm 127

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Please join me in
prayer: May the words of my mouth and the meditations of our hearts be pleasing
in your sight, O Lord, our Rock and our Redeemer. Amen.

Dear J.D. and Tifaney,
members of Pilgrim Lutheran Church, and invited guests of the bride and groom,

Grace to you and peace
from God our Father and from the Lord Jesus Christ.

One thing that struck
me in hearing you, J.D. and Tifaney, speak about how you both first met was how
at least one of you at that time had no thought of getting married.
Yet, the Lord clearly had something else in mind, as here you both are. You are
bucking trends in the United States not only by getting married but also by getting
married here, in your church, since you desire to begin your married life in the
Lord’s Name and with His blessing. Your story of how you met and your understanding
of God’s role in your marriage prompted me to select as the text for this
sermon Psalm 127, which served as today’s Appointed Psalm, essentially the
Entrance Psalm or Introit (Psalm 127 was also reflected in the Opening Hymn).
And, with Psalm 127 in mind, especially the first half of its first
verse—“Unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labor in vain”—I have
given this sermon the theme, “The Lord is building this house”.

Psalm 127 is the only Song
of Ascents ascribed to Solomon, and it shares content with some of his proverbs
and may even reflect his building the Lord’s Temple, receiving a special name
from the Lord, and having a revelation from the Lord in a dream. The main point
of Psalm 127 is that everything depends on the blessing of God, and the
divinely‑inspired psalmist makes that point using examples from the
family and civil spheres. Yet, Psalm 127 is not really saying anything we do
not know from elsewhere in the Old Testament, such as from Genesis chapter 2.

In fact, the Old
Testament Reading’s excerpt from Genesis chapter 2 (vv.7, 18-24) told us how the
Lord God created woman in order for Him to fix the “not good” situation of the
man being alone and so being unable to accomplish what God desired people to do,
especially their being fruitful and multiplying, filling the earth and subduing
it. So, the Lord God created woman as a helper fit for the man and did so by
taking a piece of the man’s flesh and bone. Then, the Lord God brought the
woman to the man and presented her to him as a treasured and precious gift
necessary for him to have his own house, home, and children. Adam confessed who
she is and about their relationship: they are two but one flesh. And, the
divine writer states the result of their marriage and indicates that their
union sets the pattern for every other union that will follow. Marriage
is always to be the permanent union of one man and one woman, by way of a
public confession and declaration of the union, and with the primary purpose of
sexual union to produce children. J.D. and Tifaney, as you remember from our
pre-marital catechesis or instruction, your spouse is the Lord God’s treasured
and precious gift to you, in part for that same purpose.

We often think that we
are in control of our lives, make the decisions about our lives,
and by our actions determine what becomes of our lives. Yet, Psalm 127
busts those deceptive myths! “Unless the Lord builds the house, those
who build it labor in vain.” J.D. and Tifaney, the psalmist says that in
vain
you rise up early and go late to rest, toiling anxiously at Reef and E‑T‑M‑C.
Such toil is “vain” because in effect the Lord gives you all good gifts while
you His beloved sleep. Now, I am not saying that people should not
work, but I am saying that we all should realize that God
gives us everything, including our jobs, our ability to do them, and our things
that we think that we are buying with the money that we think we are earning. Last
week in our Midweek Lenten Vespers service we talked about Our Heavenly
Father’s giving us our daily bread, that is, His giving us everything
that has to do with the support and needs of the body. We do best when we
recognize our human weakness and inability and surrender to Him.

Psalm 127 three
times
mentions things being “in vain”, and that emptiness or nothingness or
vanity reminds us of our own worthlessness apart from the Lord God. On account
of the sinful natures we inherit at the moment of our conception in our
mother’s wombs, we are all materially and morally worthless before the Lord
God: our thoughts, words, and deeds that do not proceed from faith are all evil
before Him. On account of our sin, we deserve to be separated from God now and
for eternity—no matter our age. Any efforts to save ourselves would be in vain,
unsuccessful and ineffective, but our situation is not hopeless. The Lord God
calls and enables us to repent: to turn in sorrow from our sin, to trust Him to
forgive our sins for the sake of His Son Jesus Christ, and to want to do
better. When we so repent of all of our sin, then God forgives
our sin, whatever our sin might be.

Since before Christmas,
our Sunday morning Adult Bible Class has been studying what the Gospel accounts
say about Jesus before He began His public ministry, and the last couple of
weeks, we have been watching the 2006 movie “The Nativity Story” and comparing
it to the Bible’s accounts of Jesus’s birth. (J.D. and Tifaney, I am sorry you
will miss this Sunday, when I hope to complete that class; I guess you will
have to listen to that class on the internet!) The movie depicts Joseph
building a house for Mary, his fiancé, and he plans for them to make that house
a home by raising a family there together. Of course, in some sense they did
raise a family, but not quite as he thought! The Holy Spirit conceived Jesus in
Mary’s womb, and He grew up, and, out of love, He gave Himself up
for the Church, as the Epistle Reading said (Ephesians 5:1-2, 22-33). Jesus
Christ died on the cross for you and for me, to save us from our sins.
So the Epistle Reading describes Him as the “Savior” of the Church. St. Paul in
that Reading goes so far as to say that human marriage mysteriously refers to
the relationship between Christ and the Church. He lovingly and sacrificially
dies for Her, who had been unfaithful, and He graciously by faith sanctifies
Her, makes Her holy, through the washing of water with the word, that is,
through Holy Baptism. She, in turn, submits to Christ. And so, like Christ,
husbands love their wives sacrificially, and, like the Church, wives submit to
their husbands in everything.

In planning this
wedding with you, J.D. and Tifaney, I was pleased that you wanted to receive
the Sacrament of the Altar together as you were married. Not bread of anxious
toil
as in Psalm 127, but the Sacrament offers bread that is Christ’s
body
and wine that is Christ’s blood, which give all of us who receive them
the forgiveness of sins and so also life and salvation. As you receive this
Sacrament you are forgiven of whatever sins you have committed in the past;
your guilt is gone. You start your marriage with a clean slate, as it were.
Also by way of this Sacrament, the Lord Jesus lives in us, so St. Paul writes
to the Corinthians that our bodies are for the Holy Spirit temples, houses
built by the Lord (the Hebrew word for “temple” is the same as that for
“house”) (1 Corinthians 3:16). Because our bodies are “temples” or
“houses” for the Holy Spirit, we glorify God in our bodies, fleeing
from any kind of sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:12-20).

In the second half of
Psalm 127, as well as in the verses of Psalm 128 that served as the Gradual
today, there is an unmistakable emphasis on children as a blessing the Lord
gives to those who are married. The psalmist’s calling children a “heritage”
and “reward” emphasize that they are gifts given from the generosity and
choice of the giver
. That we do not exactly relate to the figures of speech
the psalmist uses to describe how the children are blessings does not
change that the children are blessings. Of course, sin impacts
God’s plans for our lives, and so we live each day with sorrow over our sin,
with faith that God forgives our sin for Jesus’s sake, and with the desire to
do better. With such repentance and faith, there is forgiveness for every sin,
especially those sins that people so often think separate what God in marriage has
joined together. As Jesus Himself emphasizes in the Gospel Reading (Matthew
19:3-6), in marriage there is no longer two but one flesh; what God has joined
together people essentially cannot separate.

J.D. and Tifaney, You
will express your consent to be married, and you will exchange your vows, but
the Lord, Who brought you together initially, will marry you. “The Lord is
building this house”. The Lord will not only marry you, but, as you live in His
forgiveness, He will also enable you to stay married. As much my being His
instrument for your wedding is my privilege and pleasure, and as much as your
parents’ and other guests’ attendance here is a blessing, you know that the
Lord’s being here through His Word and Sacraments is far more important both to
your wedding and to your married life. Let Him fully build your house,
and then its construction will not be in vain.

Amen.

The peace of God, which
passes all understanding, keep your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. Amen.

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